otherhalf, please learn this

baby..this is so us. this is wad we need to learn and know. dun resist to learn. becos im learning as well..

One of the biggest differences b/w men and women is how they cope with stress.
men become increasingly focused and withdrawn while women become increasingly overwhelmed and emotionally involved.
at these times, a man's needs for feeling good are different from a woman's.
he feels better by solving problems while she feels better by talking about the problems.
to her, sharing problems with another actuallu is considered a sign of love and trust and not a burden.
she is not ashamed of having problems.
not understanding and accepting these differences creates unnecessary friction in a relationship.

how men react when women need to talk (otherhalf, look at this. and reflect on us)

when women talk about problems, men usually resist. a man assumes she is talking with him about her problems becos she is holding him responsible. The more problems, he feels blamed. he does not realise that she is talking to feel better. a man doesn know that she wil appreciate it if he just listens.

men talk about problems for only two reasons:
they are blaming someone or they are seeking advice.
if a woman is really upset, a man assumes she is blaming him. if she seems less upset, then he assumes she is asking for advice.

if he assumes she is asking for advice, then he puts on his MR fix-it hat to solve her problems. if he assumes she is blaming him, then he draws his swrod to protect himself from attack. in both cases, he soon finds it difficult to listen and they find it difficult to communicate.

when a man feels attacked, he begins to defend himself. he thinks that if he explains himself, she will stop blaming him.
however, turns out to be more upset she becomes.
he doesn realise that explanations are not what she needs.
she needs him to understand her feelings and let her move on to talk about more problems.

each man found peace of mind when he finally understood that a woman's need to talk about her problem was not becos he was failing her in some way.
a man learned that once a woman feels heard, she stop dwelling on her problems and becomes very positive.

baby..this is one so big problem of us. i always feel that u got the wrong meaning of what i say. and yet i dunno how to explain what is wrong. and amazingly, i come across this little knowledge which is so true and can speak it all for me. i just need u to listen, understand and emphatize. now you that whatever i said to u before, im not blaming u nor letting u feel useless. this is communication. it is not inborne. it has to be learnt and practice. and lets start learning now..

when ever u are out with ur friends or work or wad and when im free, i will look for all these information on how to improve our relationship. i cherish this rs as much as u do. so im doin a lot of reading to find out how to communicate with you better and lessen the frictions between us.

im not looking for a bf now. and i duwan a bf now. im looking for a man whom i can rely and trust on and spend the rest of my life with me. and now, i know why i cant get what i want from you.

becos u are still, just a boyfriend.

curse of the golden flower/night at the museum

both movies are thumbs up!

curse of the golden flower is exciting while the latter is entertaining:)

went vivo with baby todae. the children play area is a WOW
these days children are really lucky. they get to enjoy the best things really
however we din stay there for long cos its too crowded n nth to do.
broke la. no shopping. no nothing. n to think tat i missed the mango 50% sales,
i feel like killing myself!!!!! hai.
wanted to catch a movie at vivo but the show is full house.BOO
so take a bus back home and check other places
n we set at jurong east cinema. ok. the cinema is rather disappointing. no difference from watching tv at home. at home u dun even have to tilt ur head to watch n get neckaches at the end of it
e popcorn is quite nice la.

yest went for baby's and his friends gatherin
well not too bad i say
spend some gd time laughing la
n thanks ericia for keepin me company throughout BIG HUG FOR U:))
you're really a nice gal.
i will pray for ur 'opening ceremony' to come soon

to conclude,
quite a well spent xmas!

i have realise somethg.
i do not feel so stress with schwork anymore.
isit becos im numb?
isit gd or bad?
hmm.

thgs i need to do (aside from schwork):
clear my table. look like some shit/junk
clean away all e dust on my table
alter my irritating jeans.
apply baby johnson everyday to make my skin smooth n supple! haha
start readin storybook. i miss tat fav pastime!
do face exercise to slim down my fat face a bit

last merry xmas all my love ones..

sunshine after the rain

finally..i feel so much comfortable now.

baby thanks for everything.
thanks for the hug
thanks for the much needed comfort
finally i feel tat your smile and laughter is from your heart
finally i feel your love for mi like last time.
i'll trust u more every each day
have confidence in you every each day
finally i feel tat thgs are really going to normal..

i miss youvery much. hope tat u too:)

last entertainment for e night

is it love?

1. Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing? and your voice caught within your chest?it isn't love, it's like.
2. You can't keep your hand off them, am I right?it isn't love, it's lust
3. Are you proud and eager to show them off?it isn't love, it's luck
4. Do you want them because you know they're there?it isn't love, it's loneliness
5. Are you there because it's what everyone wants?it isn't love, its loyalty
6. Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?it isn't love, its pity
7. Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?it isn't love, it's lack of confidence
8. Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?it isn't love, it's infatuation
9. Do you tell them that everyday they are the one you think of?it isn't love, it's a lie
10. Are you willing to give up all your favorite things for their sake?it isn't love, it's charity
11. Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?it isn't love, it's friendship
12. Do you accept their faults because it's part of who they are?then it's love
13. Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?then it's love
14. Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply, it hurts?then it's love
15. Do you stay because a blinding incomprehensible mix of pain, and elations pulls you close and hold you?then it's love
16. Are you attracted to others but stay with them faithfully with no regrets?then it's love
17. Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?then it's love
18. And always remember - love isn't one sided!! - Both must love for LOVE to exist!

entertainment part 4

why guys like girls

1. They will always smell good even if its just shampoo
2. The way their heads always find the right spot on our shoulder
3. How cute they look when they sleep4. the ease in which they fit into our arms
5. the way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything
is right in the world
6. How cute they are when they eat
7. The way they take hours to get dressed but in the end it makes it all worth while
8. because they are always warm even when its minus 30 out side
9. the way they look good no matter what they wear
10. the way they fish for compliments even though you both know that you think she's the most beautiful thing on this earth
11. How cute they are when they argue
12. the way her hand always finds yours
13. the way they smile
14. the way you feel when you see their name on the call ID after you just had a big fight
15. the way she says "lets not fight anymore" even though you know that an hour later....
16. the way they kiss when you do something nice for them
17. The way they kiss you when you say "I love you'
18. actually... just the way they kiss you...
19. the way they fall into your arms when they cry
20. then the way they apologize for crying over something that silly
21. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt
22. then the way apologize when it does hurt ..(even though we don't admit it!)
23. the way they say "I miss you"
24. the way you miss them
25. the way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn't hurt her anymore.....
Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without them... it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever they were to the world they become everything to you. When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very heart. We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling. Only felt.

entertainment part 3

why girls like guys
1. The way they always wear their favorite cologne (which happens to be the one that you bought them for their birthday)
2. The way the run their hands through your hair
3. The way that they look at you and you want to die right then and there
4. The way that they casually put their arms around you
5. The way that they kiss away your tears
6. ...and the way that they then get mad at how they can't make your problem go away
7. The way they show off around their friends, even though you both know that you would love them even if they missed a basket or two
8. How there eyes light up at the result of 3 hours of preparing for your date
9. How they always know just what to say to make you blush
10. How they sometimes think that they know just what to say to make you feel better, even if you think that it is the worst thing that they could say
11. The way they hold you close when you are cold
12. How they look at you when your mad at them and all your anger melts away
13. How they always smile when you are together
14. The way that they always let you win any game that you play together
15. ... and then when you point that out to them they pretend to not know what you are talking about
16. The way that they smile at you
17. The way that you feel when they call to apologize after you had a big fight
18. The way that they say I love you
19. The way that they say I love you in front of their friends
20. The way that they touch and hold you so gently, like they are afraid that they will break you
21. The way that they kiss you
22. The way that they open their arms to you when you are crying
23. The way that they never admit that you hurt them
24. The way that they try not to cry when they are afraid that they are losing you
25. The way that they think that they are your big protector, even though you think that you are theirs
26. The way that they say I miss you, even though they hate to admit it
27. The way that you miss everything about them when they are gone
28. The way that they remember your special moments, or aniversaries when you think that they forgot
29. The way that they apologize when they do forget
30. The way that they comfort you when you have a bad day
31. The way that you can't wait to get home and tell them all about your day
32. The way that they write you love letters even if they think that it is uncool
33. How they would rather be with you then their friends sometime
34. How you want to hug them even though they are all sweaty
35. Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without them... it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever they were to the world they become everything to you. When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without a trace of sound, you know that your own life is inevitabley comsumed within the rhythimic beatings of his heart. We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it justice. It is a thing a feeling, that is only felt.

entertainment part 2

what is love?

Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin, But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him/her become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him/her for what he/she is. Love him/her for his/her good points, and the bad, You can't wish for him/her to become like what you like him/her to be just because you love him/her. If he/she can't change to become what you like him/her to be, you don't love him/her anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him/her, You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.
Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test, If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.
When two people are in love, They love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don't trust each other, they don't trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless; Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for u will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry, Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then? Be careful when making promises; don't make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Rmember? Swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!!? In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; The 1 saying, doesn't believe; the 1 listening, also doesn't believe.

some entertainment

50 romantic things to do for your bf/gf

1.Watch the sunset together.
2. Whisper to each other.
3. Cook for each other.
4. Walk in the rain.
5. Hold hands
6. Buy gifts for each other.
7. Roses.
8. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you're together.
9. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.
10. Write poetry for each other.
11. Hugs are the universal medicine.
12. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.
13. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.
14. Tell her that she's the only girl you ever want. Don't lie!
15. Spend every second possible together.
16. Look into each other's eyes.
17. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly.18. When in public, only flirt with each other.
19. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren't looking.
20. Buy her a ring.
21. Sing to each other.
22. Always hold her around her hips/sides.
23. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal.
24. Spaghetti? (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?)

25. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart.
26. Dance together.
27. I love the way a girl looks right after she's fallen asleep with her head in my lap.
28. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it.
29. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes
30. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say I love you.
31. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about them.
32. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.
34. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.
35. Be Prince Charming to her parents.
36. Brush her hair out of her face for her.
37. Hang out with his/her friends.
38. Go to church/pray/worship together.
39. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.
40. Learn from each other and don't make the same mistake twice.
41. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.
42. Make sacrifices for each other.
43. Really love each other, or don't stay together.
44. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren't thinking about them, and make sure they know it.
45. Love yourself before you love anyone else.
46. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.
47. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.
48. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.
49. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.
50. Never forget the kiss goodnight and always remember to say, "Sweet dreams."
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"The hardest part of loving someone is knowing when to let go, and knowing when to say goodbye."

"Moving on is simple, it's what you leave behind that makes it so difficult"

"I dont miss him, I miss who I thought he was"

"If someone you love hurts you cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it."

"Love can make you happy but often times it hurts,but love is only special when you give it to who its worth."

"If You Really Love Something Set It Free.If It Comes Back It's Yours, If Not It Wasn't Meant To Be"

are you in love?

When you are together with that special someone, you pretend to ignore that person. But when that special someone is not around, you might look around to find them.At that moment, you are in love.

Although there is someone else who always makes you laugh,your eyes and attention might go only to that special someone.Then, you are in love.

Although that special someone was supposed to have called you long back, to let you know of their safe arrival,your phone is quiet.You are desperately waiting for the call!At that moment, you are in love.

If you are much more excited for one short e-mail fromthat special someone than other many long e-mails,you are in love.

When you find yourself as one who cannot erase all themessages in your answering machine because of one messagefrom that special someone, you are in love.

When you get a couple of free movie tickets, you wouldnot hesitate to think of that special someone.Then, you are in love.

You keep telling yourself, "that special someone is just a friend", but you realize that you can not avoid that person's special attraction. At that moment, you are in love.

While you are reading this page, if someoneappears in your mind,then u are in love with that person.

ease my pain

im really so in pain now.

i want to give up. i want to let go.
i really want to.
but i dun have tat courage to.

pls let me meet my guardian angel tonight.

tats all i need

i realise that this is the only place i can turn to now..

really..its tormenting..
shower me with your love...no more cold shoulders for me please.

i dun dare to open up to you anymore
i dun dare to be upset or angry in front of u anymore
i dun dare to cry in front of you anymore
becos comfort is something i will never ever get from you ever again.

theres something i need so so so much now.
i need comfort. i really need that.

my 'spam' blog

ridiculous lei. which part of my blog looks spam?
anyway it has been reviewed by the so called blogger team and now e blog can function per normal again:))
its no gd keepin thgs to myself w/o sharing here.
girls need to talk. its therapeutic. yes. it definitely is!

met up w advisor philip koh at cityhall jus now..well..glad tat our project is seeing some hope..
jus pray hard that nth goes wrong now and then on..

tired and busy these days. tired becos many thgs have happened. haven realli overcome n recover from that 'shock' yet. but wadever it is, i'll still stay strong and move on. time and life wun stop for mi even the sky falls. so this is how cruel and sad living on this earth can be.

come back smile

pls, somebody make mi smile.

they say everythg happen for a reason.
yes, indeed.
now i know who is truely lovable and also hatable.

dun cry becos its over. smile becos it happens. im trying very hard now.

charlene pls take care of yourself. your health is really bad. ginseng and tonic for ur coming bdae present ok.

welcome shittysharon

why is blogger time so screwed? forever not accurate one. anyhoots..wadever. i dun really want to care.

shittysharon is so describing me right? haha.

slack the whole day todae. when will it ever stop raining really. the pitter patter of rain becomes part of my life nowadae.

why do you leave me alone when you said you will nv leave me alone?

nobody can be trusted. its a world of fakers and liars. so sad.

you push mi away when i tried to make things better.

i won't try anymore. its like giving myself a tight slap tats all.

its all so painful tat i have to do away with my previous blog and friendster acc. every thg there could stab mi through.

enough of sad things.

i had a nice and filling dinner jus now. its been long since i feel my stomach smiling.

to my friends: you all are my everything. :))

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